A Little Christmas Humbug?

I recently said hello to a friend on Facebook. I didn't even get a chance to ask about Christmas. Her immediate response was that she was running out the door and was putting up a tree she didn't want to put up. I kind of laughed and echoed her sentiments. Her response? "There is NOTHING wrong with NOT putting up a tree..people look at you like there is something wrong with you…maybe you can write a thing on that one."

The writing that follows is my response to her request:

No matter where I go this time of year, whether people know who I am or not, it seems I am asked if I am ready for Christmas. Really? Why do they want to know? Why all of this sudden small talk? Generally speaking, the questions are asking if my house is decorated and if I am finished shopping. Ugh!

If I had to name my favorite holiday, I think I would say Christmas - followed very closely by Easter. I'm not sure if anyone would be able to tell though. I have never been one who loves to decorate, although most years we do join in. It takes a lot of time and I don't feel like I am very good at it.

I enjoy special occasions. I like all the quirky little days that are thrown in just to make life fun - days like the appreciation days set aside for various workers, Sweetest Day, etc. My husband, on the other hand, does not seem to appreciate them like I do. In fact, my days of hoping that he will even consider getting me something for Sweetest Day are over! Long gone! He thinks they are ridiculous - just another day for Hallmark and the florist to make money.

The older I have gotten, the more life experiences I partake in, the more I see that commercialism running rampant throughout every holiday out there. More and more I appreciate the decorating and the work others have done to celebrate the Christmas holiday. But as for me, it is far from important to see the beautiful snow, the wonderful lights, and the nicely decorated Christmas tree. Am I ready for Christmas? Sure, as long as that doesn't mean I have spent a lot of money on gifts or spent hours decorating!

At the center of my favorite holidays is the true meaning behind them. Our Messiah was born and at Easter time we celebrate God's amazing gift explained to us in John 3:16. "God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in Him should not perish, but have everlasting life."

As we celebrate, we remember our family and friends and love to spend time with them. The combination of Biblical truth and our relationships with loved ones is what truly makes the holiday special to me.

Decorating seems like an extension of the commercialism my husband despises on Sweetest Day. Yet, at the same time, when I start to decorate, it really takes on a completely different meaning. The decorating ceases to be a chore; it quickly becomes a time filled with great memories. You see, most of my decorations (perhaps even all) are gifts received through the years. As I look at each item, I remember each special relationship and somehow the "chore" becomes something almost magical. Christmas music in the background reminds me of the joy and the reason behind Christmas and I am suddenly filled once again by the love extended to us.

Our tree? Well, some people may think our tree is a bit on the skimpy side, but the four of us like it. It is a little, purple, tabletop tree that friends purchased for Becca when she was in the hospital. When Becca saw it set up, she was thrilled and even mentioned that gifts (…gifts? …time will tell…) could go under the table. Perfect. And it is another reminder of love, along with the reminder of God's magnificent gifts of healing and provision.

To my dear Facebook friend who asked me to blog about this topic, I hope that somewhere within this writing you found a small piece of encouragement. It's okay if you don't put a tree up, but in doing so, I hope you were able to find and relive lots of little memories and remember your loved ones too. Christmas should be about being able to find joy - even if that means you have to look hard for it. Somewhere out there, it is there for you to find.

My closing paragraph has been copied from another Facebook friend's status. I thought it was an interesting way of looking at things.

Did you know that the chopping down of the Christmas tree represents the death of Christ and putting it back up again represents the resurrection of Christ. Did you know that the wreaths we hang are never ending circles, that represents eternity? Candy canes were made to look like shepherd hooks and the colors red , Jesus' blood, white, purity. The gifts, represents the 3 gifts the wise men brought for Jesus. So when you are running around trying to get the "perfect gift", stop yourself take a deep breath and remember we have been given the perfect gift, Jesus Christ was given to us to remove all of our sins. HAPPY BIRTHDAY to you, Jesus. Merry CHRISTmas!!!

Seasons of Change

As a Toastmaster, you are taught that there are three speeches that take place every time you speak. 1.) The speech you wrote, 2.) The speech you give, and 3.) The speech the listeners heard. The first two are rather obvious, but the speech given and the speech that was heard should be about the same, shouldn't they?

Yesterday, I mentioned that I went to church a couple of times on Sunday. I would think that after sitting through basically an hour's worth of talking, I would have a lot of information that I could repeat. That is hardly the case! In fact, without looking at my notes, there is only about one sentence that remains with me from each sermon. Sad, but true!

Pastor John mentioned that he encouraged people to repent in his Christmas cards one year. He said it wasn't the best received Christmas cards he'd ever sent. (Hmmm…)

Pastor Episcopo said that God is able to forgive us even when we are struggling to forgive ourselves.

Interestingly enough, in both cases the sentences were not the main point of the sermon…more like a passing sentence that stood out to me. However, they are little like little gold nuggets that encouraged me to think and reflect.

Why is it that so many of us struggle with repentance and forgiving ourselves? I think that most people (if not all) have an innate sense of right and wrong. We ultimately respect our Heavenly Father so much that we feel that guilt and shame. Whether or not we choose to acknowledge and accept that may be a completely different story.

For me, it isn't the repentance that I struggle with. I struggle with forgiving myself of my wrongs. Other people can make their mistakes and it seems as though it isn't long before it is water under the bridge. But to forgive myself? Oofda!

How do I work to get better? First and foremost, I need to remember that I am created in the image of God. He loves me with all of His heart and wants the best for me. I need to spend time with Him and in the Bible.

If you are looking for a great passage to encourage you along these lines, try Psalm 103. If you don't have a Bible handy and want to read on the computer, www.biblegateway.com is a fantastic reference. There, you can enter the text you are looking for and choose to read in whatever Bible translation you prefer.

My point today? Choose your words carefully. You never know what someone is going to take away with them. And more importantly, we are living in a time of grace. As we remember Jesus' birth, we can remember the reason He was born. That was ultimately to die for our sins. If God can love us that much, we can certainly feel free to draw near to Him, accept His love and grace, and learn to forgive ourselves as we grow in Christ.

Wrong Worship

I went to church yesterday, not just once, but twice! That must make me a pretty good, religious person, huh. Ha! Hardly! The bare bones raw truth of the matter is that I really did not want to attend either service. Egads! Did I really admit that? Yes...I had my reasons...probably a whole list of 'em! But that is just a case in point.

Church isn't what makes a person good or religious. It is a place for us to gather, learn, and be edified for the week ahead. But for some reason, church is one of those places where you can find a lot of people watching what is going on. And of course, along with the watching is someone passing a judgement.

You see, churches are filled with all sorts of people. Of course, there are people who attend because they want to and are truly worshiping their Lord and Savior. There are people who attend because they are "forced". People are there because they want to know more, but haven't yet committed to following Christ yet. And I'm sure there are thousands of different explanations that could be added to the list. The bottom line? We are all people, and as such, we fall short of perfection. Church is a place that should be welcoming and accepting, loving those who are there as Christ loves us.

I would like to share a video with you. It is a satire designed to show us the sad nature of what all too many of us do each and every week. I may not have originally wanted to go to the services that I attended yesterday, but I can now say that God used that time to work on me and my heart. I was blessed by my time there and am very thankful that I went. Take a moment to watch. I think you'll enjoy it and the brutal truth it sheds...Let's see if we can change that, moment by moment, day by day, and week by week.God can change our hearts and lives if we allow Him to and keep our focus on Him. To God be the glory!

A Success Story

Dreams, goals, accountability, and success? Victoria Knight-McDowell is one woman who had a dream and saw it through to fruition. Victoria was a second grade school teacher. Working around kids that age can be a lot of fun, but it can also mean a lot of colds and flu. In a quest to find something to keep herself healthy, she did some research on Chinese and holistic medicines. Every step of the way, McDowell asked questions. She came up with a list of vitamins, herbal extracts, antioxidants, electrolytes, and amino acids that would help boost the immune system. Victoria understood American's desire to have things work quickly so she created an effervescent formula that would be quickly absorbed into the body.

Hard work and perseverance have paid off for McDowell and her family. The labels were hand placed on the original order of 12,000 tubes of her product Airborne! She took all the time she could to make sales calls to drug stores and handed out samples at the malls after school. Victoria, kept her focus and believed in her product. She didn't take the advice of her naysayers. Today, the product is sold internationally, bringing in a net of $100-150 million annually!

I personally support this product. I like the fact that I am using something to help me stay healthy that isn't a chemical formula to cover up symptoms. Not only that, it really does work. You do have to use it as directed though. If you would like a coupon for $1.50 off, I have a link on my Facebook page or you can visit the Airborne site: www.airbornehealth.com

I don't know if any of us have a dream as big as Victoria Knight McDowell, but if you do, I encourage you to follow your dream. It could be that your reasons for moving ahead are just excuses. Follow your dreams!

Officially Accountable

Yesterday, I talked about setting SMART goals. Toward the end of that post I mentioned that Becca and I set some goals together. They were goals we both had been thinking, just hadn't spoken out loud. I don't know about her, but for me there was a reason for not sharing those goals "out loud". I wasn't sure I was ready to commit to them!

I am on the road a LOT! It may be short trips here or there. It may be a little longer. Sometimes for me, it is the crazy schedule of picking up one child, dropping her off and then doing the same thing with the next girl. Take a slight break, run an errand or two, and then I get to do it all over again!

I don't necessarily choose to keep a schedule like that, but when you work with school and work schedules, it doesn't always work out the way that would be best. And…when schedules are like that, it doesn't always leave much time to prepare decent meals. It requires thinking and planning ahead - something I have been working on improving...

So, the goal I have just committed to? I still hate to say it out loud - it almost scares me because I'm not sure I can do it. I have committed to not eating out at fast food restaurants unless it is absolutely necessary. Yes, it does sound ridiculous, but being in the state of mind we have been in, it is just far too easy to make an excuse to pick up that dollar burger or taco. It satisfies our need for food and saves us some time. The flip side is that it is not at all good for us. We have decided that we want to make our health more of a priority. The second goal is no soda. That one should be easy.

There. I shared it. I am now accountable to the world! I don't really think it'll be all that hard…but it will present a challenge from time to time. Of that, I am sure.

The whole point of this was to briefly mention accountability. No matter what type of goal you have, it will always be more successful if you choose to have someone keep you accountable. Here are a couple questions you could ask in an accountability session with a friend:

-Have you met your goal this week/month?

-If so, great! How did you do it? Was it too easy? Or can we strengthen the goal?

-If not, what held you back? How can I help you to improve? Or what can you do to work on success for next week/month?

-What was most challenging for you? How did you deal with that challenge?

And the most important question of all comes at the very end…

"Have you been completely honest?".

SMART Goals

Counseling appointments are a part of our normal routine. It has taken quite awhile to come to a point of a.) Finding a counselor who is able to work with us, understand our needs, and b.) Finding a counselor who is able  to establish a professional patient/counselor relationship and connect without feeling like a friend - believe it or not, that is a very important separation point!

Today we talked about SMART goals…Goals that are very specifically and strategically set to succeed. SMART goals are:

Specific

Measurable

Achievable

Realistic

Timely

Three goals were set. The one that sticks out in my head is a goal dealing with daily devotions. Becca was ready to set the goal and move full guns ahead on setting the goal to be daily. Her counselor, however, reined her in a bit, asking if Becca felt that it was a Realistic goal. Becca thought and changed the goal to read 5-7 days/week. She is working through reading the New Testament in a year.

Next, the counselor asked Becca if her goal was Achievable. Some of you might think the counselor's question sounds a bit harsh or condescending. Her actual intent, however, was to help Becca to set a goal that she knew Becca could successfully meet in a shorter period of time. The goal was revised to say, "I will do my Bible study 5-7 days a week when I wake up until I finish Matthew." When she finishes Mathew, we have already discussed the revision to include Mark. It will be a series of shorter goals set throughout the year or until she has met her "big picture" goal.

I was impressed that the counselor cared enough about Becca's values to help her include them in her goals. She could have very easily avoided goals specifically related to Becca's walk with Christ and approached her with the watered down world-values of a "good" person. Instead, she was very intentional with her questions and helped Becca work through each of her goals like that.

On the way home, Becca and I had fun creating a couple more goals. We agreed to try to keep one another accountable. Although, I think we both realize that we will not be the best partners for one another because we are too close. Interestingly enough, though, the goals we set had been running through both of our heads. It was simply a matter of saying them out loud. Hopefully, we will be of the same mind and manage to make it through - a moment at a time, followed by each hour, day, and week until we realize that we have established a new routine.

Consider what lies ahead for you. Do you have goals? Do you know how you are going to accomplish them?

Vacation/Stay-cation

It's been coming for awhile. I've been dreaming…And now my dream is about to burst into a full vacation! Yes! I am really ready!

But wait… There is a problem. My bank account tells me I can't take a vacation. Harrumph! As I see it, I now have two options…

Doom & Gloom

OR

Rise and Surprise!

I will choose the latter. It sounds like more fun. I am tired of the doom and gloom. Today was just one of those days of being ready to escape. I don't really care too much about where I escape to. Of course I would love to run away to some far off place and have the time of my life, but since that is not an option, I have decided that I am going to have a little fun right here.

I mentioned a stay-cation to someone today. She thought it would be nice to take a vacation at home, work on projects that she isn't able to attend to during her normal schedule. Me? Nah. Work doesn't sound like vacation. Although, if there were some way to trick my family into believing that it could be fun, it might be tempting! …I could come up with a whole house make-over!

Since I don't think that is going to happen, I will plan this crazy stay-cation. Weird, I know. It is somewhat of a twisted idea. But I have to do something. Here are some of the things I am planning/considering:

Step 1: Change my name. Check! I am now Лиса Боскуез. Actually that is my real name translated to Serbian...not really sure how long I want to look at it in a foreign language. Hmmm…

Step 2: I wonder what Serbia is like…I checked into it a little on Wikipedia…not bad.

Step 3: Immerse myself in the culture…eat some Serbian food - or even just a Greek gyro! Find some art and music…surf the net a bit.

Step 4: Dream of a cruise down the almighty Danube River.

Step 5: Insert some real vacation traditions - "visit" far away friends! Yay!

Oh, I don't know…I think this all may be a little too weird even for me!

Dear reader, what suggestions do you have for me? How can I plan my stay-cation to be something fun without spending any money? How do you "get away from it all" without really leaving home?